Paul Reinhardt: Finding Peace in the Practice

I’m a Norwalk resident and the founder of the New Canaan Parent Support Group (NCPSG), and I’ve been proud to support and partner with New Foundations Recovery for many years.

My personal recovery journey began after tragedy struck just over ten years ago, when my son Evan—my witty, kind, and huggable Evan—died of a drug overdose on June 15, 2015. Alongside my grief, I wrestled with deep guilt and regret. My inner voice was harsh: “You blew it, Paul. If you had just stepped in at the right time…”

A few years later, I started the parent support group—originally as a way to give back and find purpose through the pain. What I didn’t expect was how profoundly healing it would be. Week after week, I met incredible people and found new ways to support others while also learning how to care for myself. One moment that always stays with me: our Thursday night facilitator asking, “What have you done recently for your own self-care?”

For a long time, I didn’t have an answer. But slowly, I started to realize: self-care isn’t selfish.

How I’ve Found My Way Back to Myself

Meditation: Early in my grief recovery, I tried journaling and reading. One book that deeply impacted me was Broken Open by Elizabeth Lesser. She encourages meditation as a way to move through grief and pain. I started with group sessions, then moved on to apps. Now, I meditate daily—usually breath work, body scans, or “yoga nidra.” I’m no expert, but building a habit (same time everyday) made all the difference. As a bonus, meditation has even helped my golf game—slowing my breath helps me stay present just before the back swing.

Yoga & Walks in Nature: As NCPSG grew, I found myself working longer hours and burning out. Mindful movement brought me back into balance. Yoga (whether at the local Y, on YouTube, or in a neighbor’s garage-turned-studio) and regular walks through local preserves keep me grounded and calm.

A Daily Water Plunge: In the summer, I make time for a dip in my backyard pool. That moment when I enter the water—I feel weightless, fully present. It’s a powerful reminder that peace is always available, even if just for a few minutes.

Looking Ahead: As we prepare for NCPSG’s 9th Annual Community Addiction Awareness Vigil, the pressure is on—but so is the excitement. Our recovery speakers continue to bring hope and inspiration to so many.

I hope you’ll join us on Wednesday, August 27 at 6:30 PM. Thank you for letting me share a part of my story.

—Paul